For many parents the connection between “good” behavior and showing love to a child is a very powerful one. Sometimes parents feel they must withhold love if a child is acting “badly”.
This conditioned thought may stem from our own childhood where we felt approved and loved when we were “good” or “deserving” of love.
Children however often need to feel loved, connected and welcomed when they seem to least deserve it. In that very moment when they act out, pout, yell, bang the door, kick, cry….right then, that is when they really need you to say yes to love. When we choose to say yes to love we are nurturing and cultivating connection.
Will you try it? Will you try saying YES to love, even when it seems like it’s not the “right” time?
Peace & Be Well.
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