Many situations in life make us respond on auto-pilot. Sometimes being on auto-pilot can make things easier and sometimes harder. When it comes to parenting, at times auto-pilot leads us to respond in ways that can cramp our relationship with our children. The good news, it’s never too late to work on changing these responses.
For many parents, becoming more positive in the way we face and react to parenting challenges has to do with exactly this. We must create new ways of responding to situations in which we are stressed, overwhelmed, tired, upset, mad, angry… It takes a lot of practice to substitute the auto-pilot response for a better, more productive or peaceful response. But the very first step is simply to become aware of what those responses are because often after awareness we can better transition into change.
So, this weekend, try to notice how you respond when you are mad, angry, upset, tired or getting your buttons pushed. Do you “push” back, do you yell, do you retreat, feel defeated? Try to be aware of how you feel and how you react. What and how does it make you feel to reflect on your auto-pilot responses?
Peace & Be Well,