Cooperation Begins with Trust

Category Archives: Kids 5 – 12 years

parenting tips for children between 5 and 12 years. homework struggles, independence, chores,

Help Your Misbehaving Child With These Brain Based and Effective Discipline Techniques

Help Your Misbehaving Child With These Brain Based and Effective Discipline Techniques

Discipline Your Misbehaving Child With Positive and Proven Strategies. Do you really want to spend the next several years with your child shouting, threatening, nagging and feeling exasperated day in and day out? Here are proven positive strategies to change behavior and help your child grow responsible and healthy. Continue Reading

Have A Happy Holiday Season With These Proven Parenting Tips

Have A Happy Holiday Season With These Proven Parenting Tips

The holiday season can be a big trap for stress and parenting self-sabotage. For the next several weeks, you may have high expectations for good, cooperative behavior.  You may get tired of fielding requests for big, expensive or so very many gifts. Comments from relatives at family gatherings may trigger self-doubt.  Little elves on shelves eagerly waiting to report… Continue Reading

How To Transform Criticism And Bring Out the Best in Your Child

How To Transform Criticism And Bring Out the Best in Your Child

The best praise is focused on your child’s effort, not your child’s traits. The same is true of criticism. In one study by Columbia University researchers, kindergarteners were given a scenario: a teacher asks them to create a house out of Legos, and they forget to put in windows. Then the teacher and child role-play… Continue Reading

How to Set Limits with Your Child (That Stick!) in 3 Easy Steps

How to Set Limits with Your Child (That Stick!) in 3 Easy Steps

How To Use Positive Discipline For Setting Limits with Kids  I keep a notebook about each of my children in which I record major events, questions, and notes from parent-teacher conferences and other meetings. I happened to be thumbing through my daughter’s notebook while at a doctor visit last month, and a folded piece of… Continue Reading

How to Reduce Attention Seeking Behavior In a Positive Way

How to Reduce Attention Seeking Behavior In a Positive Way

Why Choosing Positive Guidance over Punishment Helps Reduce Attention Seeking and Other Unhelpful Behaviors Children often seek attention in mistaken ways. When you offer guidance, you can help your child feel connected, understood and ready to make better choices. As children grow they become very skilled at figuring out really clever ways to get adults… Continue Reading

7 Proven Ways To Prevent After School Meltdowns

7 Proven Ways To Prevent After School Meltdowns

Positive solutions for after school attitude, meltdowns and tantrums. Does your child  seem to have a bad attitude, or throw tantrums right after school? Meltdowns, difficult attitudes for the rest of the afternoon, homework refusal and defiance at home are quite normal in the weeks following the start of school. These meltdowns and bad moods… Continue Reading

How To Discipline A Child That Breaks The Rules And Doesn’t Listen

How To Discipline A Child That Breaks The Rules And Doesn’t Listen

You broke your own rule mama! You used the car as a closet!  Said my daughter beyond excited to have noticed my forgotten coat, wrinkled and abandoned in the freezing cold car.You are right. And I am so glad you noticed and told me. I offered with a smile. I will be sure to take it inside… Continue Reading

Children Are Wired For Empathy And Insisting On Apologies Is Not Necessary

Children Are Wired For Empathy And Insisting On Apologies Is Not Necessary

Knowing how to make amends is a very valuable life skill.  As children grow they have many opportunities to apologize and make amends. While we would like children to know how to say “I am sorry”, often children will apologize in their own way. Children are Wired for Empathy Children are born with the capacity for… Continue Reading

Understand Why Siblings Fight and Help Them Start Getting Along

Understand Why Siblings Fight and Help Them Start Getting Along

Inside:  Understand why siblings fight with each other and for attention and learn sibling conflict reduction parenting tools. “You are being mean!” said my son. His face filled with disappointment. “I’m never sharing my truck with you ever again.” He added, walking away with a deep sigh. I had been listening to my son and… Continue Reading

The Most Powerful And Punishment Free Way To Better Behavior

The Most Powerful And Punishment Free Way To Better Behavior

Discipline that teaches your child’s heart and mind at the same time. When my son was four years old, he was sweet, funny and quite mischievous. Just a moment unsupervised and something was likely to get opened, spilled or broken. Most days my son was content to play with his toys, in the garden or… Continue Reading