Do you ever worry that your child is constantly chewing nails, biting toys or fidgeting non stop? Many children tend to develop habits of chewing and fidgeting, and this can lead to countless hours of nagging, hassling, pleading, bribing and power struggles. Sound familiar? Do you want to find some positive ways to deal with nail biting, fidgeting and biting on toys for your child?
Today I am sharing a product review with a giveaway sponsored by KidsCompanions Chewelry. Chewelry just may be a possible solution for a child with a biting/chewing/fidget habit.
My middle child around age three developed a habit of chewing on toys. Although this is not unusual for a three year old, it wasn’t safe. The chewing started, around the same time we moved to a new home. Moving can be a pretty stressful event for the whole family. Even though we talked a lot about the move, played away some of the fears and gave lots of support, the chewing seemed comforting, a habit similar to children that suck a thumb or use a pacifier.
The thing is, I wanted to help him kick this new habit but in a very gentle and peaceful way.
I didn’t want to create power struggles between us, nagging every time a toy went in his mouth was going to get exhausting for both of us! So I decided to look into some possible solutions that would help stop/reduce the chewing but without creating shame and resentment.
Chewing and sucking habits often arise out of a need to self comfort, for example many children chew their nails when they are nervous, twirl their hair to deal with stress, pick noses out of boredom, chomp on pencils while daydreaming etc…Often, it’s not just a matter of making the chewing and chomping stop but rather getting to the bottom of the issue – that stress, fear, boredom and so on.
Some great ways to get to the real issues are by listening, playing, telling stories, making art and laughter. For example, often if I could catch my son chewing up a toy car, I would invite him to play together and be silly so he could giggle, and we could connect. If he wanted to talk, I listened, really listened to whatever it was that was bothering him. Stored up fears, worries and such can really spark up habits like biting and twirling and talking things out is really invaluable!
But…As much as I was ready to listen and offer comfort any time that the chewing would show up, realistically with three children it wasn’t always possible to run over and have a heart to heart, not because I didn’t want to or understand that this could be helpful, but because I’m outnumbered!
So, not too long ago, I found out about KidCompanions Chewelry and contacted them. KidCompanions Chewelry specializes in chewable, wearable pendants. These pendants are made specifically for children to chew on. After reading about chewelry, I thought it might be helpful for my son, not to replace our process but to be a fun helper along the way.
I’ll admit, I was concerned initially that introducing something specific for him to chew on would make him chew more, or make him feel like he has a “problem” but I have found that it has been helpful. At times when I noticed chewing going on but could not address it I would just gently suggest that instead of chewing a toy that he use the chewlery.
I have noticed that his habit is actually fading away. I know a lot of this has to do with the listening time and his age. “Blue chewy” is being used less and less. Although I think we could have gotten through this phase without the chewlery, I still believe it saved us from having power struggles a few times and so I think it was a great addition to the overall solution.
Having the Chewelry gave us a positive alternative and a safe and practical way to deal with the habit. Instead of demanding “take that toy out of your mouth” or “stop chewing on that” or getting upset that yet another toy was going to have teeth marks, I could simply remind my son that he had the Chewelry.
While kicking a habit like nail bitting or toy chewing is not as simple as giving a child Chewlery, the pendant can be a great practical tool to reduce power struggle and stress surrounding these habits which can actually make it worse. I find that the Chewlery can be a great tool for children that are dealing with a soothing habit like biting nails or twirling hair, IF the efforts to kick such habits are going to be combined with ways to really address the underlying cause as well.
From KidCompanions Chewlery:
KidCompanions Chewelry is attachable or wearable. It is age-appropriate, stylish, efficient, and SAFE— bpa, phthalate, pvc, lead and latex free. CE marked and made in Canada from FDA approved materials, KidCompanions Chewelry comes on a 100% organic cotton lanyard with a child safety clasp or a clip. Average use is 6-9 weeks. We aimed at making a product that is non-toxic, durable but that can’t damage teeth. Recommended for ages 3+
Chewelry has offered to giveaway
one pendant and lanyard to ONE Positive Parenting Connection reader!
To enter please leave a comment sharing what kind of habit you want to help your child over come or how you think chewelry may help your child. Oh, don’t forget to subscribe to the positive parenting connection blog and join our facebook page so you don’t miss the winner announcement! ONE winner will be chosen from the comments section using random.org on October 31st 2012.
Giveaway now closed! Thank you for participating.
Disclaimer: I received a complimentary Chewelry pendant for review purposes. The opinions stated in this review are my own and I have not received compensation to provide my opinion. KidCompanions Chewelry will be sending ONE winner their prize directly and Positive Parenting Connection/Author declines all responsibility and liability for anything and everything related to using the product. For any questions about the product please contact KidCompanions Chewelry directly.
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