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25 Questions That Get Kids to Talk About School

25 Questions That Get Kids to Talk About School
Going Beyond "How was Your Day" with Fun and Creative Questions for Kids

Does this ever happen to you when your kid comes home from school and you are just so curious about their day and you have lots of questions to ask, so you get started:

“Hey! How was school today?”

“Fine.”  Your child says, already grabbing a book, tablet, snack etc…

…and then the conversation is over.

Questions for Kids that Go Beyond the Basics

Children actually love to talk about their day and what they are doing.

Sometimes it just takes a little bit of prompting and creating a relaxed and welcoming environment to get the conversation going.

Talking about school daily is a great opportunity for your child to know that you care about them. It also gives you important insights into any problems like bullying, school anxiety, friendship challenges and more.

Mixing It Up Might Be The Key

It can get boring and even annoying for your child if you grill them every day on the details of what they did at school. Opening up to you about fears, joys, frustrations and victories does goes a long way to building self-esteem and preventing after school meltdowns.

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While some children will happily open up, other children might need some encouragement and questions can be a great way to get a conversation going. Keeping questions light and simple at first is a great way to simply have fun and enjoy each other.

Here you will find a mix of questions that are fun and open ended. You’ll also find some more serious questions to help you talk about tough topics like bullying, anxiety and fears related to school.

25 Questions That Encourage Children to Talk about School

1. What was your favorite part about school today?

2. What activity did you like the most today? And the least?

3. What did you think of the first assignment you had to do today?

4. If you could do any moment at school over today, what would it look like?

5. What was the funniest thing that happened in your class today?

6. Which assignment/activity did you feel most confident about today?

7. How is it going with your school activities and assignments?

8. What’s the most interesting thing you heard at school today?

9. If you could change just ONE thing about school, what would that be?

10.  What made you laugh/worry/smile in school today?

11. What 3 words would you use to describe your best friend in school?

12. If you were stranded on a deserted island with one person from your school, who do you wish that would be? How come?

13. If you had $1,000 to buy something for your school, what would you buy and where would you put it?

14. What qualities do you like most about your teacher?

15. What is something your teacher said to you today that you are still thinking about?

16. If you could put a spell on your teacher and change tomorrow’s lesson, what would you make it all about?

17. Who did you play with/talk with at school today?

18. What is your best friends favorite part of school? Is that the same for you or different?

19. If a famous person could come to teach a class at your school, who would that be and what should they teach?

20. What parts of school today went by the fastest? Slowest?

21. When I went to school there were some kids that were a bit mean, teasing and such…have you noticed anything like that at your school?

22. There was a boy/girl in my school when I was in grade x that was bullied all the time, I never quite new what to do about that. Have you ever felt that way?

23. Was there anything you wanted to learn more about today but didn’t have time to ask the teacher about?

24. What is your favorite spot in your school/classroom?

25.What are you looking forward to learning in school tomorrow/this month/this year?

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Curiosity builds Connection and Trust

Talking to children about school gives you a really wonderful opportunity to discover how your child is doing, adjusting and learning.  Taking this time to be together also helps you build a special bond of trust.  Listening to your child in these early years is a great way to make sure your child feels comfortable and ready to talk to you about important things as they grow up.

If for some reason your child doesn’t feel like talking, that’s alright too. Some children need time to decompress after school before they are ready to get chatty.  Follow your child’s lead, strive to stay curious and willing to connect.

Peace & Be Well,
Ariadne

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