No matter how good you get at calming yourself, being mindful, being positive and working towards harmony and cooperation, there will be moments where you will feel overwhelmed or not sure how to “handle it”.
Our job as parents isn’t to get it right every single time, our job is to be there, trying, getting it, maybe failing and yet totally willing to try again.
Rewinding after a bad moment is possible.
Letting go of perfection is helpful.
Try to quiet the worry and the guilt. These don’t help us move forward.
Try to take a moment for yourself, breathe in and out. It’s not selfish to care for yourself.
Try to focus on what will truly matter in the long run.
Try to forgive yourself, chances are your child already did way before you.
Try to imagine what a kind, compassionate exchange would be like.
Don’t let a bad parenting moment make you feel like you are a bad parent. It’s impossible to get through your parenting journey without making mistakes. Impossible because we are not perfect and neither are our children. Try to pause and remember that if you can actually recognize a bad moment, a bad decision or how you could/should/would have done things differently, then you have already taken the most important step towards making it better next time.
Peace & Be Well,
Latest posts by Ariadne Brill (see all)
- Child Discipline: Patience and Warmth are More Likely to Stop Misbehavior Than Threats and Anger - February 5, 2019
- Using Time In instead of Time Out For Toddler Misbehavior Leads to More Learning - September 18, 2018
- 25 Questions That Get Kids to Talk About School - September 5, 2018