Nurturing Gratitude At Home

The Power of a Meaningful Thank You by Kerry Spina

Encouraging your child to say thank you and to feel gratitude is a process. Nurturing gratitude comes with practice, modelling, acknowledging and experiencing. Regardless of whether or not children appear thankful, they can learn to express their gratitude in meaningful ways. So how do we do it? How can we help our child to feel grateful when they are given something, or feel thankful for small everyday happenings – like food and clothing?

A simple and effective way to encourage gratitude within your family is with a ‘Meaningful Thank-you’. Giving meaningful thank-yous, brings greater self-awareness and strengthens relationships with others through appreciation, kindness and respect. There are many ways to give a meaningful thank you, with letters, cards, and a hug, a pat on the back, thumbs up, phone calls and gifts. The most simple and cost effective way is with words by verbally expressing in a meaningful way what you are thankful for.

A meaningful “Thank You”
Often we hear ourselves say “Thanks a lot”, or Thanks for that”, or the customary “Say thank you” to encourage our child to show gratitude, courtesy or respect. While thanking can be a great habit to teach our children, these words can take on a whole new meaning by linking a virtue with the thank you.

Thanks for what?
Saying thank you is an opportunity to express what we are thankful for. It can be a meaningful way to give purposeful praise to our children and to encourage what we value. It can help introduce many other virtues into your child’s language and world. It grows self-confidence in kids and helps them to understand the cause and effect nature of the choices we make. It helps to give meaningful praise, replacing the ‘good girl’ or ‘well done’ phrases that are more directed at pleasing rather than growing responsibility, values-knowledge or self-awareness.

Examples of meaningful words/phrases/praise
• Thank you for being so helpful and packing away your toys.
• Thank you for being considerate and sharing with your sister, it was a very kind and fair thing to do.
• Thank you for being thoughtful and giving me a gift.
• Thank you for your honesty, I trust you.
• Thank you for being gentle with my kitten and keeping her safe.
• Thank you for your patience while I get your dinner ready, you waited so calmly.

Things to be mindful of
1. What are you thankful for?
2. What do you value?
3. Which virtue do you choose to encourage? Kindness, love, respect, patience etc…

Reflective Questions:
. How do I show my gratitude?
. Who could I say thank you to?
. How do I encourage my child to be grateful?
. What makes me feel grateful?
. Who do I know that is full of gratitude?
. Where are the opportunities to role model gratitude?

the power of a meaningful thank you

Our first opportunity to role model gratitude is to be on the look out to say thank you to your child for their efforts, actions and intentions. Just as we encourage and value the skill of learning to read, count and ride a bike, we can also encourage and value expressing gratitude and developing character. It takes many years, many teachers and experiences to learn to read. It also takes many years, many teachers and experiences to nurture virtues and character strengths within your child. You are your child’s most valuable teacher.

May gratitude be a blessing to your family,

Yours in Harmony
Kerry

Kerry Spina is a mum of a beautiful 11 (and a bit) boy Isaac as well as a Parent Coach and Yoga teacher for adults and children. She lives in Sunny Townsville Queenland Australia and loves to share her passion of gentle parenting approaches and values education. Kerry is also the creator of Kidsin Harmony ~ A music and values program for newborns to 9yrs and is the author of Harmony Cards for Kids. Kerry is a regular contributor to the Positive Parenting Connection. 

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2 thoughts on “Nurturing Gratitude At Home

  1. Thank you for sharing. I try very hard to encourage the expression of gratitude in our home. This is great, I will certainly share this!

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