Being deliberate and present with our children is a wonderful way to encourage cooperation. I have been thinking and reflecting a lot about being deliberate and present with my children. Even just a few weeks ago, I wasn’t focusing on this very well…my distraction was translating into disconnection. Lack of connection with my children lead directly …
Gratitude is the heart’s memory. Such a powerful idea. For families, memories can be so special and gratitude can have such a positive impact on family life. Once a week, our family has a meeting where we share appreciations, compliments or things we are thankful for – we do this year round – it’s simply …
Sometimes we get caught up in complaining that our children are not responding to us when we would like them to. We think they are dawdling, or taking their “sweet time,” or “dragging their feet” or just being “selfish.” Here’s the thing though, how long does it take for us to respond to a …
Parents don’t need to wait for children to come to them for touches, hugs, whole-body-scoops and kisses. Being regularly physically affectionate with kids of all ages actually helps maintain the emotional connection they share with their parents. When that bond remains strong, challenging behavioral situations decrease and discipline becomes less intense overall.
It’s beyond unfortunate to see so many people cheering on the shame and the humiliation that so many parents are freely dishing out. It’s human nature to instinctively want to fit in with others and behavior is incredibly contagious…Shame and humiliation teach shame and humiliation. On the other hand, kindness begets kindness, respect brings about respect.
Things will get messy, loud, sticky, complicated and stressful.Choose love and building a relationship over proving you have power. Children learn so much when given a chance to fix their own mistakes.
Boundaries or limits will often vary from family to family but when we set boundaries, it’s important to think about how those boundaries will protect or affect feelings, behaviors, thoughts and physical safety. Boundaries are supposed to provide security and guidance, not to make a child feel locked in and controlled.
when we are kind and others are kind to us, it has the power to create happiness! When our children experience kindness, in our requests, in our actions and intentions, our world together can become a brighter and happier experience. Children will listen and cooperate because our requests are sincere, understandable and our expectations are fair and presented in a considerate way.
As parents, our days are often busy and bustling, whether we go out to work or not. And although these busy days have their pros – we get to socialize, make friends, change our scenery, get fresh air and be productive – they can also be difficult and overstimulating for our children.
Responsibility is not something we can demand or insist upon from our children. It is something that is learned, by trial and error, by observation and by receiving ample chances to do things over again when needed. The process of learning responsibility can come with great pride and sometimes it involves experiencing failure and disappointment. Responsibility is about having the mindfulness to solve problems in a way that reflects our inner values of goodness, peace and kindness.