It’s easy and yes, very tempting to hold a grudge, lecture and recall past mistakes. The problem is if we don’t extend forgiveness and by that I mean, let that bad choice be addressed and then let it go, we harbor resentment.
Resentment leads to frustration, disconnection and more bad behavior. Continue reading »
So how to handle over-wound, exuberant, annoying behaviors in a positive way? Everyone has their own personality and style. Embrace your child for who they are, that kind of acceptance alone will help you see that their behaviors are often just an expression of who they are and how they approach the world, not things done to annoy you. Continue reading »
A baby’s fussiness, colic, gas or other tummy pains should never be ignored. While Babies can easily become upset, the quicker you can understand the problem and alleviate symptoms the sooner your child will calm. The many reasons for a baby’s upset stomach are not that dissimilar to the causes of an upset stomach in … Continue reading »
Consider this. Your child chose C because it is his job. His job to practice being in charge of himself as often as possible. Her job to test you, to let you know HER preference, to state loud and clear “I am the boss of ME!” And your child is right. He IS the boss of himself, and as the boss, he gets to ultimately decide what choice he will make. This is truly evidence of just the kind of self-directed, independent soul you (most of the time) want to grow. Someone who is in charge of themselves.
Okay, but you still need to get out the door. To continue to support your child in their quest to be independent it is important to respect their choice. How does this look and still get out the door–maybe on time? Continue reading »
Being deliberate and present with our children is a wonderful way to encourage cooperation. I have been thinking and reflecting a lot about being deliberate and present with my children. Even just a few weeks ago, I wasn’t focusing on this very well…my distraction was translating into disconnection. Lack of connection with my children lead directly … Continue reading »
Danny just turned three years old and he used to be that kid. That kid that bites, hits and screams at playgroup…The kid everyone kind of sighs about when he arrives. That kid that ends up being placed in time out several times or taken home mid activity. Danny isn’t that kid anymore! Here is a glimpse of what … Continue reading »
Do you ever feel badly that a parenting tool everyone thinks is oh so great isn’t working for you? Or just frustrated in general that a tool you would like to use doesn’t seem to work? No matter how great a parenting tool may seem, in truth, parenting tools are not one size fits all. Sometimes … Continue reading »
focusing on their abilities/strengths/qualities–things you want to encourage for they help our children become more confident, feel more capable, able to take risks, to rally from mistakes, to move through struggle. To know “I can really use my brain” sets a child up to work through a tough homework problem in an empowering way. Hearing “You are so smart!” can leave a child at a loss when they don’t do well on a test, or when they can’t figure out a problem. Using “You CAN be” instead of “You ARE…” gives a child the chance to be something else. Empowering! Continue reading »
A new resource for managing family screen time Screen time has become part of the daily routine for many families. Children of all ages seem to be spending time with tablets,TVs, computers and games these days. While screens can be a source of entertainment, fun and learning, too much screen time can leave families disconnected … Continue reading »
IT IS GLUE! IT IS STICKY! MAMA LOOK!!!”
What a beautiful process this was, to watch my daughter lead the way in her own learning. Direction has a place, instructions sometimes are needed but moments like this remind me that our children often, very often, have the answers within themselves. Continue reading »