Connect and Cooperation Will Follow

Connect and Cooperation Will Follow

As parents, we wish to have influence with our children. We wish for cooperation. We want our children to follow directions and accept guidance. Yet, how often do we take the opposite path to get there? We insist on control and demand obedience from our children. We speak of battles and power. We shush emotions … Continue reading »

Positive Parenting: Why Keeping Our Limits When Children Become Upset is Important

When we let go of punitive parenting and authority over the child style of parenting, setting a limit with kindness and consistency and then actually holding it may at first feel similar to punishing or being authoritarian. With time and practice though, it is possible to be confident, calm and consistent in a way that conveys that the limits are about creating safety, building trust and guidance. Continue reading »

Positive Parenting: Rethinking “You Have To Share That!”

Positive Parenting: Rethinking “You Have To Share That!”

Sharing requires understanding of another person’s feelings and desires. Sharing is about being creative with another as you use something together, it is about being compassionate and giving, it is about being respectful. How do our young one’s grow into the sharing mode? By our understanding of THEIR feelings and desires, our compassion, our giving, our being respectful of them. It also begins with complete ownership over something. Continue reading »

Why Skipping a Nap Results in Meltdown

Why Skipping a Nap Results in Meltdown

Over time, as a baby’s sleep cycle matures he will be able to go longer periods between sleeps. It is not until age 4 or 5 that a child is able to go happily through the entire day without a nap, and sleep research suggests that even through adulthood a mid-day nap or rest break is extremely beneficial in reducing the pressure in all human beings. Continue reading »

The Words to Say When Children are Disappointed

The Words to Say When Children are Disappointed

Finding the right words when children are disappointed  isn’t always easy. I’ve learned over the years that although it is hard to see our children feeling upset,  distracting, reasoning, lecturing or otherwise trying to fix their feelings usually just backfires.  So how do we find the right words to say when children are disappointed? The words that express … Continue reading »

Parenting: What Triggers your Anger?

Parenting: What Triggers your Anger?

Family life is complicated and unpredictable. Day-to-day expectations and responsibilities can create angry emotions in both parents and children. No matter how skilled you are at parenting, no matter how wonderful your children are, you cannot eliminate or avoid the unpleasant situations that occur in all families. However, once you understand where the anger comes from you can modify the situation and learn ways to control your reactions, so that anger can occupy a smaller place in your home. Continue reading »

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