How to Stop Power Struggles

How to Stop Power Struggles

Power struggles between parents and children happen. Most often power struggles happen when the parents expectations and abilities of the child in that moment are just not in sync. So often, your job as the parent is to keep a certain amount of order so that everyone is safe and well. That also means that … Continue reading »

Positive Parenting: How to Follow Through With Limits

Positive Parenting: How to Follow Through With Limits

Most parents have great intentions when they come up with limits and boundaries. Which rules to set and why they are important are usually clear.  The power struggles and negotiation start when parents find that  keeping those limits, following through, just doesn’t go so well. While most children will not actually admit to wanting or … Continue reading »

One Important Thing To Do About Bad Behavior

One Important Thing To Do About Bad Behavior

It’s easy and yes, very tempting to hold a grudge, lecture and recall past mistakes. The problem is if we don’t extend forgiveness and by that I mean, let that bad choice be addressed and then let it go, we harbor resentment.
Resentment leads to frustration, disconnection and more bad behavior. Continue reading »

When Children Test Limits and Don’t Accept Choices

When Children Test Limits and Don’t Accept Choices

Consider this. Your child chose C because it is his job. His job to practice being in charge of himself as often as possible. Her job to test you, to let you know HER preference, to state loud and clear “I am the boss of ME!” And your child is right. He IS the boss of himself, and as the boss, he gets to ultimately decide what choice he will make. This is truly evidence of just the kind of self-directed, independent soul you (most of the time) want to grow. Someone who is in charge of themselves.

Okay, but you still need to get out the door. To continue to support your child in their quest to be independent it is important to respect their choice. How does this look and still get out the door–maybe on time? Continue reading »

Discipline for That Kid that Bites, Hits and Screams

Discipline for That Kid that Bites, Hits and Screams

Danny just turned three years old and he used to be that kid.  That kid that bites, hits and screams at playgroup…The kid everyone kind of sighs about when he arrives. That kid that ends up being placed in time out several times or taken home mid activity. Danny isn’t that kid anymore!  Here is a glimpse of what … Continue reading »

When a Parenting Tool is Not Working

When a Parenting Tool is Not Working

Do you ever feel badly that a parenting tool everyone thinks is oh so great isn’t working for you? Or just frustrated in general that a tool you would like to use doesn’t seem to work? No matter how great a parenting tool may seem, in truth, parenting tools are not one size fits all. Sometimes … Continue reading »

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