Why Problem Solving Wins over Fixing Behavior

Why Problem Solving Wins over Fixing Behavior

Let’s think about the challenging moments of parenting. You know, the frustrating moments that make you wonder why you ever had kids in the first place. Here is an example: For the past few weeks we have been having daily battles over socks. Yes. Socks. My 5 year-old daughter whines and complains that she “hates … Continue reading »

Social Media + Tweens: Why we’re taking it slow…

Social Media + Tweens: Why we’re taking it slow…

We all need to make the choices that are right for our family, that fit with our values. Kids have to be at least 13 to be on social media. I know this isn’t really an enforceable rule and that loads of kids under 13 are using social media – but it is something I am going to choose to hold on to over here. I want my kids to practice integrity when they are online.I want my kids to be creative and expressive when they are online. I want my kids to value privacy. Continue reading »

Helping Your Child Through Disappointment

Helping Your Child Through Disappointment

Disappointment can be like a tidal wave of emotions for your kids. Image this scenario: The van is packed, and you’re about ready to head out the door. Suddenly, you hear thunder in the distance. No! It can’t be! You checked the weather, and it wasn’t supposed to rain for a few more hours. But minutes … Continue reading »

Understanding and Stopping Back Talk

Understanding and Stopping Back Talk

The most important lesson in back talk is to help children realize that it’s not effective, polite or a respectful manner to communicate. It’s important to teach our children how to communicate their needs well. The aim in stopping back talk shouldn’t be to take our children’s opinions and needs out of the picture. Much to the contrary, it should be to help them instead learn how to politely disagree and make their needs known. Continue reading »

Compassion and Understanding for Public Tantrums

Compassion and Understanding for Public Tantrums

Back-arching, jello legs, hitting, yelling, kicking, sobbing, throwing…a true melt-down or tantrum in progress…not very pretty nor fun and all while: …in the middle of the cereal aisle in the grocery store–maybe with various items launching themselves out of the cart like one parent mentioned of recent regarding a jar of orange juice…and another, a … Continue reading »

Understanding Big Kids’ Anger and Tantrums

Understanding Big Kids’ Anger and Tantrums

Has your four, five, six or even ten year old ever melted down into a pile of tears? Do you occasionally have to deal with anger fits of screaming, kicking or door slamming? Many parents worry about tantrums past toddlerhood. So, are tantrums after the age of three normal? Do big kids have tantrums too? Child & Adolescent Psychotherapist Katie … Continue reading »

Looking At Behavior Through A Different Lens

Looking At Behavior Through A Different Lens

I believe you’ll discover how you choose to respond to your child will be in ways that support and encourage and affirm them for who they are.
In return, they can feel empowered…and that child on the periphery may begin to move into the group and engage; the child that feels so deeply begins to understand and accept her feelings even more–allowing her to manage those feelings better and better; the eye-rolling/sarcastic stuff from your teen can lessen…and they may begin to open up about what is really troubling them; the button pushing turns into more cooperative behavior and you feel calmer and more patient daily Continue reading »

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